Dating

Dating and attraction: courtship, flirting, apps, falling in love

A topic in the tpot Community Archive, drawn from 7,270 posts.

Trusted voices in Dating

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  1. goblinodds — trusted by 143 posters here
  2. myhandle — trusted by 128 posters here
  3. christineist — trusted by 124 posters here
  4. visakanv — trusted by 146 posters here
  5. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 126 posters here
  6. mechanical_monk — trusted by 105 posters here
  7. eigenrobot — trusted by 94 posters here
  8. bashu_thanks — trusted by 90 posters here
  9. univrsw3th4rt — trusted by 80 posters here
  10. TylerAlterman — trusted by 111 posters here
  11. RichDecibels — trusted by 101 posters here
  12. nosilverv — trusted by 105 posters here

Top posts in Dating

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  1. bois a jacked qt3.14 in the gym looked at me like 5x in the span of 10 mins it was absolutely free i knew i couldn't look you guys in the eyes if i didn't go get her number, so i did i WILL learn… (mechanical_monk) — 34 likes
  2. omg omg omg just in 📣, first relationship from twitter dating app!!!!!!!!! (christineist) — 33 likes
  3. btw has anyone investigated the phenomenon where you lie down in bed with a woman and as you're looking into each other's eyes, about to kiss, she says "hi :-)" this has happened multiple times (mechanical_monk) — 32 likes
  4. one page first draft summary of my book about dating other people https://t.co/OLuUg1dMoM https://t.co/1OPNTG238c (myhandle) — 30 likes
  5. 📣 3RD RELATIONSHIP 📣 from cuties dating app!!!!! I was thrilled to meet this couple at vc @booritney @LukeSallmen https://t.co/637Db7RMnA (christineist) — 29 likes
  6. Symphony night, I got a hot date, wish me luck. https://t.co/87F90wYL3f (vividvoid) — 28 likes
  7. The most powerful IRL interview/conversation/flirting skill isn’t asking good questions nearly as much as asking good followup questions - it’s being sensitive to interesting micro-reactions. When… (visakanv) — 27 likes
  8. my friends threw a "flirting party" for 250 people yesterday and no one managed to do any flirting — the women got defensive and the men got frustrated and it was 230 people too many. my conclusion… (myhandle) — 27 likes
  9. - how did you meet your most recent partner? - what got you from point A (meeting them) to point B (relationship)? (feels like everyone i know is discouraged about dating, maybe it would help to see… (goblinodds) — 27 likes
  10. what’s a tasteful way to say i kissed a girl tonight for the first time in 2-3 years? pretend i tweeted that (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  11. Hellooo if you are single and interested in trying out a dating app I made for this twitter scene lmk!! (christineist) — 27 likes
  12. i asked my hotness consultant if she could make people desire me and she said yes but once i became hot i realized everyone around me was suffering so i went and asked her why and she said desire… (vividvoid) — 27 likes
  13. dating is such a weird ritual, like the best way we can think of to test out a potential mate is to see how good they are at having dinner with a stranger? (yoltartar) — 27 likes
  14. seems like 80% of everyday creepy male behaviour mostly boils down to vibe blindness, making a pass at someone you're attracted to after drastically misreading (or not even attempting to read!) how… (RichDecibels) — 27 likes
  15. before twitter >i want a gf who shares my niche worldview & interests >dont be a fucking retard >grow up after twitter >i want a gf who shares my niche worldview & interests… (mechanical_monk) — 27 likes
  16. Once I was getting busy w/ a girl and I pulled away and started clipping my nails, she asked me what I was doing, I was like "I'm going to finger you" and she just stared at me naked while I filed… (bashu_thanks) — 26 likes
  17. actually maybe the tpot dating problem is: straight women are attracted to masculine virtues tpot women dont want to date right-wingers the left spent a decade convincing their men that masculine… (goblinodds) — 26 likes
  18. honestly my biggest issue dating rationalist-ish guys is that they believe my preferences are up for debate and discussion when i express a preference most of them try to justify why they did… (sanjehorah) — 26 likes
  19. date idea: climb trees https://t.co/fWs3nIYCmq (mechanical_monk) — 26 likes
  20. New AI dating app idea: it monitors everyone’s entire lifestream and arranges synchronistic meetcutes which mysteriously always work out either in stable marriage or a 3-6 month adventure that… (eshear) — 26 likes
  21. dating advice your job is to discern who this person is becoming and who you could become in their company (RichDecibels) — 26 likes
  22. seeing gender / dating discourse again feels like how i imagine new yorkers feel when they’ve been away from nyc for awhile and come back and see the subway and shit and breathe it in like ahhh the… (QiaochuYuan) — 26 likes
  23. "hey @QiaochuYuan did you go to the men's circle at vibecamp?" "no, i didn't have time, i was talking to girls" https://t.co/676ZKqD2gO (mechanical_monk) — 25 likes
  24. me: if I wanted an orange would you peel it for me him: yes me: yay me: how come you pass every test with flying colors him: I read redpill forums when I was 14 me: … him: I mean I’m very securely… (christineist) — 25 likes
  25. Hello, my name is Gabe Broussard, and I am looking to meet the love of my life. I would like to marry a woman who: - Prioritizes spirituality, integrity, and relationship over worldly concerns and… (vividvoid) — 25 likes
  26. I wonder how many straight men would improve their game if they just got better at noticing the signals women were already giving them at the very least learn to use your peripheral vision so you… (m_ashcroft) — 24 likes
  27. can’t be sure but think i saw a couple girls checking me out in nyc 👀 (QiaochuYuan) — 24 likes
  28. Levels of would Would 1 - would flirt but would not sleep with Would 2 - would sleep with but not date Would 3 - would date but not marry Would 4 - would go all the way <3 (christineist) — 24 likes
  29. fwiw my view on this is never say “ive always had a crush on you” until you’ve established mutual romantic interest. you can ask a friend out on a date in a playful low-stakes way and escalate from… (visakanv) — 24 likes
  30. Well guys, the good news is, when you do start living with your whole heart in the open, you quickly alienate all the women who tried to push you into sanitized, controllable faux "vulnerability."… (vividvoid) — 23 likes
  31. beautiful woman sat down next to me on the plane and started talking to me *before* i could even try starting a conversation myself wtf is happening help i’m scared (QiaochuYuan) — 23 likes
  32. one time a guy was hitting on me and I was feeling nervous and I said something insecure and he said what? and in that moment I swear I could see the mental image he had of me as a goddess-like… (christineist) — 23 likes
  33. if you’re sufficiently charismatic, people who are attracted to you will thirst over specific “ordinary” features - even body parts - in ways that they wouldn’t when someone else without that… (visakanv) — 23 likes
  34. i bet a lot of hot girls fall into traps like putting up a permanent wall to fend off unwanted attention, which successfully keeps out a lot of respectful guys who think the hot girl is intimidating… (goblinodds) — 23 likes
  35. Being a male who gains social eptness later in life, just a series of "oh THATS why she was following me around the festival for three days, laughing at my stupid jokes with ever growing intensity… (bashu_thanks) — 23 likes
  36. dating advice: be visibly into the things you are into, around people you don't know yet (RichDecibels) — 23 likes
  37. Women don't want you to solve their problems for them because they are totally capable of solving them themselves and you trying to do it for them makes them feel incapable - they just want you to… (nosilverv) — 23 likes
  38. for most young people, dating is the first pursuit of their lives that isn't about getting a grade or satisfying an authority figure as a result, they find dating incomprehensible and terrifying and… (myhandle) — 23 likes
  39. my favorite mindset for flirting is that it’s predetermined: either you’re already compatible with the other person, or you’re already incompatible. flirting isn’t “convincing” the other person to… (chrislakin) — 23 likes
  40. here's my dating advice for straight guys: learn how to read her mind. not joking. completely serious. this is not a dig at women. become psychic (QiaochuYuan) — 22 likes
  41. date concept: reading slatestarcodex essays to each other (goblinodds) — 22 likes
  42. dating app where women post photos, men post descriptions of them written by women in their lives there's no messaging, if you swipe you're assigned a time and place to meet. the number of times you… (goblinodds) — 22 likes
  43. Received a text today from a woman who I had plans to go on a first date with, and it dawned on me while reading, that this woman who I never met nor dated, had more respect for me to even send this… (bashu_thanks) — 22 likes
  44. I was dating a flight attendant for a minute and she said “do you wanna know a secret? It doesn’t actually matter if you turn off your phone or electronics, none of the crew do at all” And I found… (the_wilderless) — 22 likes
  45. I am once again asking y’all to watch this guy go from like a 5 to a 9 in sex appeal in seconds https://t.co/dOPKyFyI7m (visakanv) — 21 likes
  46. occasional reminder that 80% of being attractive is projecting "i dont hate myself or you" and 20% is looking like you bathed and dressed yourself on purpose (goblinodds) — 21 likes
  47. women don't want you to know this but when a girl enters your DMs it's basically guaranteed you can get her to marry you if you play your cards right (ElodesNL) — 21 likes
  48. I'm actually annoyed that you people aren't dating each other. If this continues I'm going to just pair you off in locked shipping containers with a twin mattress, a lantern, and a bucket of… (michaelcurzi) — 21 likes
  49. hey early 20s men of tpot protip listen up: invest a few hours into learning about scents. if you smell good women will approach you literally all the time everywhere randomly to ask what you're… (pee_zombie) — 21 likes
  50. Who wants me to do another thread spilling the lore and backstory. Believe it or not it's more convoluted than the last dating show lmao https://t.co/XeA963KhDj (bashu_thanks) — 21 likes

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