Friendship

Making and keeping friends, loneliness, finding your people

A topic in the tpot Community Archive, drawn from 8,576 posts.

Trusted voices in Friendship

Ordered by the trust Friendship's own network concentrates on each poster, most first.

  1. visakanv — trusted by 175 posters here
  2. tasshinfogleman — trusted by 126 posters here
  3. RichDecibels — trusted by 138 posters here
  4. goblinodds — trusted by 125 posters here
  5. AskYatharth — trusted by 120 posters here
  6. christineist — trusted by 117 posters here
  7. TylerAlterman — trusted by 127 posters here
  8. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 131 posters here
  9. mechanical_monk — trusted by 99 posters here
  10. DefenderOfBasic — trusted by 96 posters here
  11. the_wilderless — trusted by 94 posters here
  12. vividvoid — trusted by 108 posters here

Top posts in Friendship

Ordered by the recorded like count from the source corpus; a like is not an endorsement.

  1. maybe you're lonely because you're fundamentally broken or maybe it's because we spent the last 70 years dismantling social structures that took centuries to develop and we haven't replaced them… (RichDecibels) — 46 likes
  2. most people are like three secure friends away from never thinking about status again (AskYatharth) — 38 likes
  3. i came to a hostel, went to the hostel bar, and within half an hour i'd started a conversation with 3 ppl i'm now having a dinner with a cute girl as a result who is this person who took over my… (mechanical_monk) — 38 likes
  4. i love this so much this is such a great example of someone being well-prepared to get the most out of their social interactions this is a Friendly Ambitious Nerd i can just tell… (visakanv) — 36 likes
  5. My very favorite kind of vacation has become the kind where several families that have been friends for a decade+ get a house together somewhere beautiful, and then we just enjoy being together… (eshear) — 35 likes
  6. On Finding Your People: I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city Disclaimer: This will require you acting… (TylerAlterman) — 34 likes
  7. here's a really simple and powerful thing that few people do 1. make a list of all the times you've had a conversation with someone that left you feeling energized, excited, empowered, encouraged 2.… (visakanv) — 33 likes
  8. this is a @not_a_hot_girl appreciation post. not an "easygoing" person: we fought the first time we met. I learnedit's bc she's cultivating epic quantities of self respect. allergic to bullshit.… (RichDecibels) — 33 likes
  9. i organized a picnic today. invited the maybe 30 ppl i met in the past 6 weeks most ppl didn't show up but other ppl brought friends and in the end in the end it was lovely and everyone had a great… (mechanical_monk) — 33 likes
  10. sometimes I meet a cool person who seems like they should/could be my friend, on paper same hobbies same interests etc, and yet there is some uncanny valley effect where they exist on a parallel… (christineist) — 32 likes
  11. one gender gulf i think about a lot is how women cannot know the depths that male loneliness can reach. no crying and no victims here just sharing a perspective (strangestloop) — 31 likes
  12. in many ways, you are better positioned to hype up your friends and allies to the degree of accuracy and excellence that they deserve than they are (tasshinfogleman) — 31 likes
  13. my thesis is that we are really not supposed to be alone at night. if daytime was ancestrally for finding food and tending to physical needs, nighttime should’ve been for gathering around the fire,… (QiaochuYuan) — 31 likes
  14. it’s my 31st birthday today 🥳 I am grateful to be here ❤️🙏🏾 my bday wish is that you take a sec to reach out to somebody who has helped you: a friend, a mentor, or even a podcaster or youtuber… (visakanv) — 30 likes
  15. one thing I find weird about the norm of meeting up with friends only to hang out / have fun is - “wait, so am I supposed to do all the *work* of living life entirely on my own”? I so want more… (relic_radiation) — 30 likes
  16. feel like mama bear reading the postvibecamp posts. if you left feeling lonelier than you arrived, sweetheart: please don't conclude there's something wrong with you, the context was off that's all.… (RichDecibels) — 29 likes
  17. i think vibecamp cured me of that lingering "men cant be friends with anyone they perceive as female" feeling i met a lot of guys who were able to communicate (even nonverbally??) a sense of dear… (goblinodds) — 29 likes
  18. I don’t say this very often but I’m really really really really really really really fucking grateful to have found the Others on twitter, especially since it wasn’t a priori clear I ever would (exgenesis) — 29 likes
  19. i think there are people around here who are like 1-5 friends' worth of encouragement away from blowing up into era-defining talents https://t.co/C1Q3AYxKhM (QiaochuYuan) — 28 likes
  20. I'm surrounded by friendly earnest weird kind people on twitter if you want more of that sorta thing in your feeds, I made this list of people for you to follow https://t.co/KnCCyK3oKI (RichDecibels) — 28 likes
  21. I've established a "drop by my house anytime unannounced" rule with my friend group and someone finally did it unprompted today & he was so scared but it was so beautiful!! (DefenderOfBasic) — 28 likes
  22. the only thing in our way is that we aren’t all in the same city to talk like madmen in cafes literally every day (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  23. 2023 goal i am gonna try and zoom call as many mutuals as possible inshallah (visakanv) — 27 likes
  24. a vision came to me a microsolidarity squad of ~6 friends, meeting up over video weekly to help each other, keep e/o accountable, debug life problems together a dozen of such squads congregated in a… (mechanical_monk) — 27 likes
  25. Hanging out with @LouisVArge in CDMX :-) https://t.co/NOd5gp0EvZ (algekalipso) — 27 likes
  26. i feel like the time is ripe for me to make a thread of people (friends, mutuals, acquaintances) who seem to be still active on here, so let's go (visakanv) — 27 likes
  27. I'd love to meet so many of you in person, if you'd like to meet me in person one day please leave a reply here as a sigil and a prayer that it will be so one day, in due time (tasshinfogleman) — 26 likes
  28. in 2021, i started a men's group. i found that when i connected strongly with the men in my life, my life went better. i wanted to meet with these men more often. (tasshinfogleman) — 26 likes
  29. So every few days I think to myself 'I need @embryosophy to succeed at her life mission.' I have never said this out loud except to my gf. I'm saying it now. lmao (michaelcurzi) — 26 likes
  30. it’s nice to remember that you guys exist and that i like you. i like your shapes. y’all got good shapes (QiaochuYuan) — 26 likes
  31. When you haven't seen your bro in a while but you hang out again and it's exactly the same https://t.co/WCFMuK6TAQ (michaelcurzi) — 26 likes
  32. "hey @QiaochuYuan did you go to the men's circle at vibecamp?" "no, i didn't have time, i was talking to girls" https://t.co/676ZKqD2gO (mechanical_monk) — 25 likes
  33. "talk to 1000 people to find 3 good friends" is something that to some people seems completely unreasonable, and to other people is an aha moment (visakanv) — 25 likes
  34. I've met hundreds of my mutuals and not one time has it been like this. They've been lovely time and time again, and I can't recommend meeting your mutuals enough. You will at least learn something… (PrinceVogel) — 25 likes
  35. I have several variations of the following recommendation: 1. practice hanging out with people without talking about The Thing that you’ve made Central in your life (visakanv) — 24 likes
  36. if we've ever had a pleasant interaction on here, even if it was just exchanging a handful of replies, you should know that there's better than even odds that was the only positive social… (QiaochuYuan) — 24 likes
  37. One of my roles/purposes in life is to act like a "superconnector" (ugh feels bad to use that word unironically 😬) Sometimes ppl ask me what this is like, so here is a post on that topicI started… (TylerAlterman) — 24 likes
  38. I wish I could explain how important it is to me, as a man, to have some bros in my life who will sometimes say 'damn that's crazy, do you want anything else on the pizza tho' https://t.co/pIaur3sEeN (michaelcurzi) — 24 likes
  39. Where is my goodreads-omegle. Why can't I just click a button and start talking whose read 76% of the same books. We live in the 21st century I should be able to instantly meet anyone with… (PrinceVogel) — 23 likes
  40. idk man i had a good time and liked who i interacted with (myceliummage) — 23 likes
  41. my friend literally parted the matrix https://t.co/6zfRGR1nYO (__drewface) — 23 likes
  42. i feel like people have been extra deranged in our direction lately https://t.co/wCLLqkcgue (sharanvkaur) — 23 likes
  43. boy check: - what emotion do u feel rn - last time u took up a lot of space - hours slept - last hang w the boys - getting enough protein? - last in person convo - how often do u think ab her - last… (strangestloop) — 23 likes
  44. reply to this tweet if you want to make friends and you would be willing to have a videocall with someone else who saw this tweet (RichDecibels) — 23 likes
  45. did I ever tell you about the time my friends from twitter filled a teapot with appreciations for me on my birthday and they made me read them all out loud and I nearly died https://t.co/vdGIOfyDVH (RichDecibels) — 23 likes
  46. one of my favorite type of person is the “yo let’s meet at a cafe with pen and paper and write down all our problems and then come up with creative novel solutions to those problems” type of dude.… (visakanv) — 22 likes
  47. I would very much like to trust you would only accept my invitation if you were enthusiastic about participating. constantly surprising how few people meet this standard (RichDecibels) — 22 likes
  48. i do not have any irl friends where i live, i do not have a girlfriend or wife, i have a terrible relationship with my family. i have probably the worst quality-of-life : follower count ratio of… (QiaochuYuan) — 22 likes
  49. currently very eepy, will write more later but holy shit I am doing so well 😭🥰😭🥰😭🥰 my energy and vibes are better than they've ever been, I'm experiencing somatic breakthroughs left and right,… (ElodesNL) — 22 likes
  50. At Burning Man in 2018 I stood outside the porta potties with an unmarked bottle of lube, offering people a squirt as they exited They all thought it was hand sanitizer, nobody stopped to ask… (vividvoid) — 22 likes

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