Gender

Gender dynamics: masculinity, femininity, feminism, how men and women read each other, gender identity

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  1. goblinodds — trusted by 155 posters here
  2. eigenrobot — trusted by 154 posters here
  3. vividvoid — trusted by 159 posters here
  4. visakanv — trusted by 149 posters here
  5. myhandle — trusted by 132 posters here
  6. nosilverv — trusted by 146 posters here
  7. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 137 posters here
  8. AskYatharth — trusted by 105 posters here
  9. bashu_thanks — trusted by 113 posters here
  10. PrinceVogel — trusted by 101 posters here
  11. xsphi — trusted by 89 posters here
  12. strangestloop — trusted by 112 posters here

Top posts in Gender

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  1. This is a lot of text - but you should care for the vibe. Look into the eyes. Her eyes, looking at him. Men feel like they’ve lost something — and they have. Met a girl (recently (in SF(!!!!!)))… (nosilverv) — 32 likes
  2. one gender gulf i think about a lot is how women cannot know the depths that male loneliness can reach. no crying and no victims here just sharing a perspective (strangestloop) — 31 likes
  3. excellent minute of a comedian getting a hot girl to do a side by side comparison of hot girl mannerisms https://t.co/H4958AXAJS (visakanv) — 31 likes
  4. Many men complain why can’t women be direct and clear and explain? Well, they DONT WANT to be understood, they want to be SEEN. They want you to know, WITHOUT TELLING YOU, because you’ve been paying… (nosilverv) — 31 likes
  5. i think vibecamp cured me of that lingering "men cant be friends with anyone they perceive as female" feeling i met a lot of guys who were able to communicate (even nonverbally??) a sense of dear… (goblinodds) — 29 likes
  6. autistic women turning 15: oh no i need to learn how to interact with people. i shall check out the library's entire psychology collection autistic men turning 15: oh no i need to learn how to… (eigenrobot) — 29 likes
  7. 1/ It's very interesting and useful I think to apply the MVP model of product development to personal development. http://t.co/ef1dY1UNr8 (visakanv) — 29 likes
  8. yknow, I don’t recall a single man telling me, when I was growing up, how great it is to be a dad https://t.co/jKcVu2xSX1 (visakanv) — 28 likes
  9. ouhh i think i may have become the kind of man i would want my daughter to date (bashu_thanks) — 28 likes
  10. wow, a lot of guys are scared! asking "am I a simp??", "am I a reply guy?!" here's a little technique that keeps me happy and healthy on twitter: > write a reply > stop > am i saying this… (bashu_thanks) — 28 likes
  11. fucking is labor, fuckability is capital (visakanv) — 27 likes
  12. i was once at a workshop with a guy who started the workshop by cynically bringing up a bunch of PUA talking points about hypergamy etc. and ended it sobbing inconsolably on the floor about an… (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  13. my friends threw a "flirting party" for 250 people yesterday and no one managed to do any flirting — the women got defensive and the men got frustrated and it was 230 people too many. my conclusion… (myhandle) — 27 likes
  14. my new hot take: the reason men are "bad" at discussing their feelings isn't because vulnerability needs to be normalized or w/e, but because psychology as taught isn't rigorous or systematic enough… (qorprate) — 27 likes
  15. seems like 80% of everyday creepy male behaviour mostly boils down to vibe blindness, making a pass at someone you're attracted to after drastically misreading (or not even attempting to read!) how… (RichDecibels) — 27 likes
  16. actually maybe the tpot dating problem is: straight women are attracted to masculine virtues tpot women dont want to date right-wingers the left spent a decade convincing their men that masculine… (goblinodds) — 26 likes
  17. i want to live in a world where it's normal for male friends to:- say "i love you" to each other- cry in front of each other- hold hands or cuddle- express their feelings, be able to listen and… (tasshinfogleman) — 26 likes
  18. what i've learned in Turkey so far: 1. How To Be a Man i felt called to learn Turkish and go to Turkey because of a tv show (Yunus Emre: Aşkın Yolculuğu), i wanted to learn how to be like the men in… (yoltartar) — 26 likes
  19. seeing gender / dating discourse again feels like how i imagine new yorkers feel when they’ve been away from nyc for awhile and come back and see the subway and shit and breathe it in like ahhh the… (QiaochuYuan) — 26 likes
  20. it drives me a little insane every time people talk about sex as if it's a substance that men extract vampirically from women (QiaochuYuan) — 25 likes
  21. (Examples in replies) I’ve talked about this with many lady friends over the years n it’s just a v funny blind spot, the mirror of how a lot of men don’t realize what it’s like to be women. A lot of… (visakanv) — 25 likes
  22. Listen, you need to be ickmaxxing. You need to be boyishly grinning during sex. You need to be constantly holding your fork in a weird way. Crying at movies, sitting cross legged, having a slightly… (vividvoid) — 25 likes
  23. I wonder how many straight men would improve their game if they just got better at noticing the signals women were already giving them at the very least learn to use your peripheral vision so you… (m_ashcroft) — 24 likes
  24. i like women frankly an unhealthy amount. i assumed that this was so universal it wasn’t worth talking about, and then the whole backlash against male feminism further scared me away from talking… (QiaochuYuan) — 23 likes
  25. older Turkish men taught me a new kind of masculinity: a man can be firm because he's secure in his values, but also gentle because he observes the world with sensitivity, takes his time, and acts… (yoltartar) — 23 likes
  26. okay uh so i think i found one of my blocks to self-love. it's like for me "love" is so tightly bound to romantic love that a part of me literally get confused about whether it's possible for me to… (QiaochuYuan) — 23 likes
  27. ah. hmm. i might be in the process of learning how to stop idealizing women. wild (QiaochuYuan) — 22 likes
  28. I have recently been accused of being anti-feminism. In the sense that I see all ideology as a barrier to freedom, this is technically true, but it's not in spirit. Let me try to clear a few things… (vividvoid) — 22 likes
  29. thinking of creating some kind of post woke non anti feminist masculinity learning space with @VividVoid_ but I fear we may break the internet (RichDecibels) — 22 likes
  30. Men, what distinctly female experiences do you wish you could experience? (strangestloop) — 21 likes
  31. I think women would like to compliment men more often, but given how few we already get, it's kind of like feeding a starving animal. There's a risk of getting mauled. https://t.co/3PWsSlKtSM (vividvoid) — 21 likes
  32. what the curzi won't tell you is that if you're hot and have a relaxed presence people are happy with you lemuring i did it for most of vibecamp and it worked great (natural_hazard) — 21 likes
  33. Masculinity is in crisis (this time) because femininity is in crisis. There are many reasons for this, & one the worst is that we've started viewing men and women as competing material classes,… (vividvoid) — 21 likes
  34. FINALLY understand why girls love not asking for a dessert + steal from yours. > asking for dessert: you're a fatso, low-self control > stealing dessert: whimsical, devilish, cute (nosilverv) — 21 likes
  35. So I hate to stereotype the genders, but I and other event hosts in NYC have noticed this strong pattern for parties, dinners, etc: Women: • Tend to RSVP “maybe” • Will take a while to answer and… (TylerAlterman) — 21 likes
  36. man opposite gender sucks so bad and i cant believe they dont see it. it's like they dont date each other and therefore dont get exposed to their gender's worst behaviors in relationships?? luckily,… (goblinodds) — 21 likes
  37. if you're wondering why men are touch starved it's bc women will absorb cultural messaging like this and then come to the conclusion that they can't touch their friends lest they send the wrong… (mechanical_monk) — 21 likes
  38. There is a lot of support for women and for queer men who have been abused by other men. But for men in my situation, I have found next to nothing. What I did find was a deep well of societal hatred… (vividvoid) — 20 likes
  39. women: i can't believe he's so oblivious, i'm giving so many signals men: i am not lovable, attractive or of any worth, i dismiss all signals because i can't believe they are real (m_ashcroft) — 20 likes
  40. So, thank you, Curzi. Your service is greatly appreciated. (nosilverv) — 20 likes
  41. when ur friends are posting thirst traps and if u dont like their pics it means u hate them and think they're ugly but if u do like their pics it means u want to bone them (goblinodds) — 20 likes
  42. maybe the biggest dating service slate star codex ever provided was a leftish perspective on why it's okay to be a man (goblinodds) — 20 likes
  43. once i shared my male loneliness with a women and she just cocked her head at me like i was an alien. she didnt even blink & when i tried to leave she kept blocking my path with her pincers and… (myceliummage) — 20 likes
  44. oh no what if Christians accidentally misinterpreted the sky father / earth mother, sun / moon duality in analogy with God / Devil and we ended up with the bodily, earthen, lunar, potential, depth,… (exgenesis) — 20 likes
  45. I'm on a mission to bring back a new form of masculinity, which is like toxic masculinity, but sophisticated and healthy without being too neutered or too pretentious. I call it 'masculinity' (michaelcurzi) — 20 likes
  46. i always hear about how bad it is to be a woman on the internet and sometimes i see replies to women's tweets and i get why but i still havent experienced this what's up with that (goblinodds) — 20 likes
  47. the interior lives of men are better captured by video games than by singer-songwriters. i say this as a man and as a singer-songwriter https://t.co/AQ26GlHTwn (visakanv) — 20 likes
  48. the "dudes rock" meme is genuinely healing for me, a dude (danielbrottman) — 20 likes
  49. writing about ideals of virtuous masculinity and realizing that Sam Gamgee is basically it https://t.co/GryzNw3RBK (myhandle) — 20 likes
  50. a young woman told me “you’re even more beautiful in person” this weekend. im still chewing on that. letting that be ok. it’s ok to be beautiful. (s0ulDirect0r) — 20 likes

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