Grief & mortality

Death, dying, bereavement, aging parents and mortality

A topic in the tpot Community Archive, drawn from 2,379 posts.

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  1. eigenrobot — trusted by 83 posters here
  2. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 82 posters here
  3. visakanv — trusted by 97 posters here
  4. vividvoid — trusted by 83 posters here
  5. AskYatharth — trusted by 73 posters here
  6. the_wilderless — trusted by 62 posters here
  7. brimmingvessel — trusted by 40 posters here
  8. tasshinfogleman — trusted by 57 posters here
  9. christineist — trusted by 55 posters here
  10. michelleakin — trusted by 50 posters here
  11. Morphenius — trusted by 29 posters here
  12. relic_radiation — trusted by 38 posters here

Top posts in Grief & mortality

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  1. On October 12, 2022, my father, Tyrone Jude Broussard, passed away from natural causes. He was 78 years old. He died at home, surrounded by his wife and family. https://t.co/UXnWMriVdD (vividvoid) — 31 likes
  2. my grandfather is probably dying he's still mostly lucid, but really frail. having a hard time with routine tasks mom suggested i go by sometime soon, and implicitly was suggesting i'd be saying… (eigenrobot) — 31 likes
  3. it’s my birthday today and i have turned 35. here’s to getting older and weirder and hopefully wiser! honored to be living this crazy life with you all! (s0ulDirect0r) — 30 likes
  4. no one ever told me the 5 stages of grief are straightforwardly functional denial: yeah, sometimes "problems" are kinda fake and will go away anger: sometimes raising the energy to fight back solves… (the_wilderless) — 29 likes
  5. alright imma log off for a while almost cussed out like five mutuals and eliezer in the last hour here before realizing I'm seeking this anger to distract myself from grief 💔🇮🇱 (myhandle) — 28 likes
  6. just got called Uncle by a group of teenage girls… that’s a nail in the coffin for my youth. I accept this… I accept this (visakanv) — 27 likes
  7. I love you, Dad. You succeeded in your spiritual calling. I am guided by you everyday. You did a great job, better than you could know. And you achieved what philosophers, saints and gurus have all… (vividvoid) — 24 likes
  8. we had a house electrical fire one week ago. woke up to a loud metal bang and flames in the kitchen we were lucky - caught it early and were able to break the electrical connection and put out the… (_brentbaum) — 23 likes
  9. my grumpy grandpa always refuses to pick up any hobby, travel anywhere, or learn anything bc he'll "be dead in a year anyway" he's been saying this for the past 20 years (mechanical_monk) — 22 likes
  10. the last lesson our parents have for us is how to die (eigenrobot) — 21 likes
  11. i showed my mom Procreate on the iPad a few times before she passed. she loved seeing me draw and had fun trying the app herself the other day i came across one of the drawings she made and 😭🙏💜… (tasshinfogleman) — 21 likes
  12. Beneath the hatred was grief. The pain of deep loss, of a beautiful part of me I'd abandoned in the face of pain, and had made hard and violent and mean instead, going against what was best and most… (vividvoid) — 20 likes
  13. my friend is dead far too early at the worst possible time really. couldnt have been worse if it were planned even more than usual with death there is nothing i can do to make things remotely… (eigenrobot) — 20 likes
  14. It's almost impossible to reconcile yourself to death *at the end of your life*, if you have not up until then. You have to acknowledge it long before, pre-grieve it, live life and make choices with… (vividvoid) — 20 likes
  15. there were about 4 different lucky breaks that meant we didn’t end with all our stuff burned up, injured, or worse. grateful to be alive and well (_brentbaum) — 20 likes
  16. there's just been so much. it's been so much to try to process and grieve and scream and cry about and i am only a bear of very little brain. i am cold and hungry and tired and alone in this big… (QiaochuYuan) — 20 likes
  17. feeling childishly sad that friendships can inevitably run their course and don’t necessarily make sense for your whole lives (christineist) — 20 likes
  18. i think among other things this sort of abject horror at the idea of dying involves a deep sense of alienation from other people and from the world - this sense that if you died something… (QiaochuYuan) — 19 likes
  19. You are a child, and all is well You grow, and the world starts to get filled with molasses for some reason Every year, a little more molasses. Up to your ankles, up to your knees. You slog through… (the_wilderless) — 19 likes
  20. I processed a lot of grief a few days ago and it 100% felt like a psychedelic drug trip. Lasted 4-6 hours, I couldn't do anything but listen to music & trip out on the somatic/emotional waves… (christineist) — 18 likes
  21. her parents didn't know what to do, nobody knew what to do. i might be misremembering this bit but they fired her nanny or something out of some misunderstanding but the nanny was actually the… (QiaochuYuan) — 18 likes
  22. there are things you learn about the world and what you can expect from it, if that's a thing that happens to you when you're 14 (QiaochuYuan) — 18 likes
  23. and i lost all the people in my life who i could've talked to about this, all at once. they had also just been caught in the explosion. they were not in any sense equipped to help me. we were… (QiaochuYuan) — 18 likes
  24. i was left completely alone. i had housemates but no one i felt close enough to to open up to about this in any meaningful way. again i did not have any words or concepts to describe what had… (QiaochuYuan) — 18 likes
  25. ･ *ﾟ everything becomes dust ･｡ *･｡ and yet we love ｡･ °*. ﾟ and yet we dance ﾟ*. ｡｡ ･ ｡ ･ﾟ ｡°*. ｡*･｡ https://t.co/eFSB3PWsrS (vividvoid) — 18 likes
  26. they know of loneliness, of despair, of betrayal, of kinship... and when we encounter each other in the wild we recognize each other’s scars, those who have broken their chains and escaped into the… (visakanv) — 17 likes
  27. His suffering, and the meaning he wrestled from it, gave him the presence and practice to face death courageously, and to leave a loving legacy. A meaningful death is a rare, precious gift to give… (vividvoid) — 17 likes
  28. today's the day: mom's heading into major surgery in a few hours. thoughts, prayers, metta, or whatever causal blessings you can stir up are appreciated. (_brentbaum) — 17 likes
  29. I'll be 40 years old soon. I thought I'd take a look back and see how I've spent it. Good memories, very few regrets. https://t.co/Uqka01osTJ (eshear) — 17 likes
  30. i wonder if one day this will all just disappear. will we simply become unable or unwilling to maintain the infrastructure that allows us to fly ~anywhere we want ~whenever we want? will we tell our… (QiaochuYuan) — 17 likes
  31. death really is a natural part of life, this is not some disney hippie slogan, there is a real spiritual truth here that can't just be engaged with intellectually. growth and decay, in breath and… (QiaochuYuan) — 17 likes
  32. ive tweeted about this in the past but i really can’t get over how good it feels to be on the verge of marriage and feel a little family forming. i had a rough childhood + broken family and didn’t… (demiurgently) — 17 likes
  33. I grieve every marriage and 50 years of life together that did not happen with every guy I seriously dated (christineist) — 17 likes
  34. Why do people think that life extension won't just lead to extreme power consolidation and gerontocracy leading to a cultural ice age? (TylerAlterman) — 17 likes
  35. well it looks like i will soon be saying that cancer claimed the lives of both of my parents, not just my mom not sure how long dad has left. found out earlier today. please send love and prayers.… (michelleakin) — 17 likes
  36. unexpectedly hard part about getting older is realizing that you can no longer be precocious (demiurgently) — 17 likes
  37. Dad was one of the toughest men I have ever known, mentally and physically. His heart stopped while he was standing, and he remained on his feet for two full minutes, sweating and pale, trying to… (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  38. But where Dad found meaning is not for me to judge, but to honor. This was my father, and this was his joy: obedience to God, devotion to his wife, adoration of his family, servitude to others,… (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  39. i bet the main reason older people chill out is bc of all the stuff they've survived that doesnt have any power over them anymore (goblinodds) — 16 likes
  40. (it feels dirty to be saying so much about her without her input but she will not talk to me anymore and i need to get this out of myself or i will die) (QiaochuYuan) — 16 likes
  41. gm i started thinking about her while lying in bed this morning and then i started thinking about "in another life i would've really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you" and i learned that… (QiaochuYuan) — 16 likes
  42. how do parents cope with their kids leaving home that seems like its going to hurt (eigenrobot) — 16 likes
  43. i've never felt comfortable sharing this story (about the woman who was raped) b/c it's not my story and it didn't seem like my place to share it. but it was deeply meaningful to me, and it occurs… (QiaochuYuan) — 16 likes
  44. if it had been a physical disaster, if we'd survived an earthquake or a landslide or a blizzard or a hurricane, it's obvious what you do, right? you go to the victims. you bring them blankets and… (QiaochuYuan) — 16 likes
  45. here's another story i've avoided telling because it feels unbelievably crass but: did you know eliezer had a little brother who died in 2004? did you know he's written about it publicly?… (QiaochuYuan) — 16 likes
  46. techies will literally invent life extension to avoid going through grief (AskYatharth) — 16 likes
  47. highly specific melancholy of awareness that your sibs are never gonna have kids who can get together with your kids and and you can just have holidays where your kids all hang out together and you… (eigenrobot) — 16 likes
  48. i've blocked my ex on our most-shared platform and etc but i still love her but not like that but i need her to do well but i literally can't talk to her because we literally can't talk anymore but… (BLUNDERBUSSTED) — 16 likes
  49. It starts as an AI friend to share jokes with and ends as an LLM trained on your ex-wife who left you, or your deceased father, or the best friend who cancer took too soon. People you are not strong… (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  50. But he was well practiced. He was a complicated man who struggled with mental illness, physical disability and addiction throughout his life. The paranoid abstractions that haunted him also haunted… (vividvoid) — 15 likes

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