IFS & parts work

Internal Family Systems and parts-based inner work: Self, parts, protectors, exiles, unburdening, Focusing

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Trusted voices in IFS & parts work

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  1. the_wilderless — trusted by 104 posters here
  2. christineist — trusted by 89 posters here
  3. visakanv — trusted by 105 posters here
  4. AskYatharth — trusted by 84 posters here
  5. RichDecibels — trusted by 77 posters here
  6. _brentbaum — trusted by 71 posters here
  7. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 83 posters here
  8. nosilverv — trusted by 84 posters here
  9. chercher_ai — trusted by 67 posters here
  10. nowtheo — trusted by 52 posters here
  11. vividvoid — trusted by 74 posters here
  12. neats29 — trusted by 54 posters here

Top posts in IFS & parts work

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  1. My mom and my dad both live on in me, And they were a really bad match for each other, Which now means that I have to somehow fix their marriage, inside myself, or have their dynamic repeated in me… (the_wilderless) — 29 likes
  2. Me when I've finally integrated all my parts https://t.co/Qclnf1PkTD (vividvoid) — 28 likes
  3. i dont know who needs to hear this but the inner core of your "personality" is the series of tricks you used to get your parents' attention when you were two, which is to say your first survival… (eigenrobot) — 28 likes
  4. banger niche IFS memes (AskYatharth) — 27 likes
  5. a thing that i sometimes do that actually sometimes works if i seem to be confused, overwhelmed and generally in a mess i half-jokingly pretend "this Visa unit is defective. please replace", and… (visakanv) — 25 likes
  6. Yikes, Scott Alexander's intro section in his latest post (Book Review: The Others Within Us) where he introduces IFS feels quite insincere and ignorant. The whole bit about “trance” or “bargaining”… (nowtheo) — 25 likes
  7. ppl like talking about 'ifs' and 'parts work' until they see what it actually looks like https://t.co/h3oUNNM66x (bashu_thanks) — 24 likes
  8. in like 5-10 years there'll be zoomers in therapy doing internal family systems work but with wojaks or whatever and it will just work probably (QiaochuYuan) — 23 likes
  9. Big update! I wanted more fiction xploring tpot stuff: “How do the fractal layers of mind interact (from IFS parts to egregores)?” “How to free ourselves from bad collective myths & create good… (TylerAlterman) — 23 likes
  10. From your shadow's point of view, you're the one blocking the light (chercher_ai) — 22 likes
  11. Published my first podcast, with @christineist ! We talk about Twitter, her relationship to journaling, and our thoughts on IFS (internal family systems) https://t.co/ZbwTia9NQv (nopranablem) — 22 likes
  12. I first met @michaelcurzi in the Bay Area when I was attending a weekend psych tech workshop. He introduced me to parts work and together we scribbled a little hand-drawn diagram of my parts. I… (tasshinfogleman) — 21 likes
  13. oh no I've been unconsciously behaving in ways that would create all the feelings I've been unconsciously designing my life to avoid feeling https://t.co/Fo2KgfIKzT https://t.co/g6PcO0DfrV (m_ashcroft) — 21 likes
  14. march: let's start a company! journaling + ifs with gpt april: people like the journal! but i don't want to use it. and it's not differentiated. may: let's pivot to focus on building a great ifs… (_brentbaum) — 21 likes
  15. richard schwartz developed IFS on the basis of experiences with himself and his therapy clients, who i think were largely if not exclusively boomer / gen X. i think it all has to be rewritten quite… (QiaochuYuan) — 21 likes
  16. Internal Family Systems [Intro Thread🧵] What is IFS and Why it is one of the coolest psychotechnologies out there ✨ https://t.co/vNSvHBXnG9 (nowtheo) — 20 likes
  17. rapid progress outpaces child parts’ comfort. sensitivity multiplies internal dissonance. massive amounts of technical debt / trauma accrue. burnout. slowness is the answer but it has to be chosen… (_brentbaum) — 20 likes
  18. @nowtheo next steps: + 20 ifs sessions guided by refract (dm me if you'd like to try), get feedback + 10 core transformation sessions + paying users + pursue exciting partnerships on product: + more… (_brentbaum) — 20 likes
  19. @not_a_hot_girl i would recommend that Scott reframe IFS to "Internal Bay Area House Party" (visakanv) — 19 likes
  20. ohhh parts of me feel scared literally all the time, got it (RichDecibels) — 19 likes
  21. So when we talk about the Ideal Parent Protocol in IFS, is that sort of like, an otherworldly father who created you, is always there for you, accepts you for you, knows all your inadequacies and… (vividvoid) — 18 likes
  22. playing with a voice to talk to my child parts with that's not "hey little guy! sorry you're hurting uwu" that got me to this point & softened lots of child parts but now I sense I'm just… (_brentbaum) — 18 likes
  23. august: hire @nowtheo. go monk mode. build first working ifs guide. passes a 10 page ifs test manuscript with flying colors. september: user testing, fix failures, improve experience around the… (_brentbaum) — 18 likes
  24. was talking to this b o y tonight and he said something about "tending to the energy between us" and as we continued to discuss it turned into something like interpersonal IFS where we are forming a… (christineist) — 18 likes
  25. what did it feel like for her? being small. not knowing who to trust. being afraid. having to constantly expend energy to hold it together. her pain was made out of ingredients i had experienced so… (QiaochuYuan) — 18 likes
  26. me: i would like to make a normal decision about a mundane, practical thing in lifepsyche: hello yes i see you requested "maximum meaning, full projection of the unintegrated qualities of your… (myceliummage) — 18 likes
  27. Gendlin Focusing is legit. I'm excited about finding this. It's a basic form of insight meditation, but a powerful, simple frame of approaching a felt sense like you would an animal - slowly and… (vividvoid) — 17 likes
  28. there are two parts or aspects of myself i am actively working to integrate, darkness and sexuality (tasshinfogleman) — 17 likes
  29. finishing up some shadow work (just quit my job) (myceliummage) — 17 likes
  30. we did it, we found the most tpot body worker in europe 20 minutes into today’s session she said “i want to do something different this time, have you ever heard of a thing called ifs?”… (_brentbaum) — 17 likes
  31. The OTHER thing you can do is LEARN to be honest, LEARN how to produce MEANING and TRUTH with WORDS. Focusing helps, intending to say true full sentences helps. (nosilverv) — 17 likes
  32. Procrastination *is directly* the result of hidden, unfelt emotions! Tension arises from pushing them away, leading to actions we call procrastination IFS (internal family systems) done well is an… (nopranablem) — 17 likes
  33. oh I use intellect as a refuge to dissociate from embodied feeling of loneliness. good friends around = head empty https://t.co/ej2PeqMVPM (RichDecibels) — 17 likes
  34. Do you have executive dysfunction or a misaligned internal executive that you’re rebelling against (TylerAlterman) — 17 likes
  35. To make this concrete, here are the failure-modes of a few popular psychospiritual modalities that I love:• IFS: you go looking for problematic parts, so the mind starts creating & reifying ones… (TylerAlterman) — 17 likes
  36. dating me is complicated because I’m actually a roomful of people (christineist) — 17 likes
  37. IFS people: how do I hunt this part down, slaughter it, and leave its carcass as an example to the others? https://t.co/TMALesAElJ (the_wilderless) — 16 likes
  38. I’m getting curious about the cultivation of the felt sense of safety If that sentence makes sense to you, how do you cultivate that sense on demand? (m_ashcroft) — 16 likes
  39. bro, are you ok? you haven't felt your feelings in a few hours now. talk to me bro. is it happy or sad or angry or afraid? we can do bio-emotive or focusing or IFS together if you like. talk to me,… (tasshinfogleman) — 16 likes
  40. I get extremely conservative vibes from Internal Family Systems. I haven't put my finger on why yet, but the self-model feels like a powerful congealing agent for reconciling to the status quo. (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  41. Hey @visakanv, I'm having some FAN-related trouble, wondering if you can help it feels like my inner Nerd is stuck: less naturally and playfully inclined towards curiosity I don't want to force… (m_ashcroft) — 16 likes
  42. coming to believe that metta for specific past selves is pareto efficient parts work (_brentbaum) — 16 likes
  43. If you often feel empty inside, or feel a void when you're alone, try this: Ask the void if it wants a break & would like to switch jobs with you for a while. Then you be the void keeping… (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  44. my weeks are getting so based, lately moot calls, circling, 1:1 authentic relating, IFS, rosen body work or somatic experiencing, ecstatic dance, dates, sweet seat, meditating, yoga fuckin killin it… (danielbrottman) — 16 likes
  45. I recorded a 2nd podcast with @nowtheo ! Our first intro'd IFS & parts work, and this one goes deep into how we view it folding into meditation & "The Path" Topics: reification vs… (nopranablem) — 16 likes
  46. people-pleasing is better described as relinquishing your right to exist (univrsw3th4rt) — 16 likes
  47. Incredible IFS session with @nowtheo this morning. He has excellent skills and instincts, both. I highly recommend him. (vividvoid) — 16 likes
  48. Imagine Bob. Bob is stuck in his head and constantly self-monitoring. This makes it hard to connect. He is relentlessly trying to solve the problem using the tool that is causing the problem: the… (TylerAlterman) — 16 likes
  49. everyone is trying to restore themselves to wholeness of being in a single fell swoop. instead I would recommend shadow integration by parts (eigenrobot) — 15 likes
  50. anyone got threads on Gendlin Focusing or IFS? recommending books to people straight away is kinda rude (exgenesis) — 15 likes

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