Therapy

Therapy and trauma healing: modalities, therapists, attachment repair, structured inner work

A topic in the tpot Community Archive, drawn from 10,509 posts.

Trusted voices in Therapy

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  1. QiaochuYuan — trusted by 172 posters here
  2. visakanv — trusted by 167 posters here
  3. vividvoid — trusted by 169 posters here
  4. the_wilderless — trusted by 142 posters here
  5. AskYatharth — trusted by 136 posters here
  6. nosilverv — trusted by 154 posters here
  7. RichDecibels — trusted by 146 posters here
  8. relic_radiation — trusted by 128 posters here
  9. TylerAlterman — trusted by 118 posters here
  10. christineist — trusted by 97 posters here
  11. RomeoStevens76 — trusted by 103 posters here
  12. neats29 — trusted by 93 posters here

Top posts in Therapy

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  1. A lot of visible problems that you can't seem to solve are secretly solutions you don't want to admit to adopting to problems you don't want to admit to having. (DRMacIver) — 58 likes
  2. ohhhhhh! if you learned early on “when I flow thru life intuitively I frequently get sanctioned, humiliated or ostracised” then it would be an adaptive choice to retreat into analytical modes of… (RichDecibels) — 55 likes
  3. FUCKED UP how you always need the opposite of your inclination: gym rats should go to therapy and therapycels should hit the gym, I fucking love sciencers should get into woo and hippies should… (nosilverv) — 54 likes
  4. in 2019, Scott Alexander wrote a review of The Body Keeps The Score, with an initial conclusion of "Overall, I was not too impressed with this book." A few weeks later, he updated the review with an… (visakanv) — 45 likes
  5. Possible huge problem with psychospiritual journeys: Yes, there are deep structures in the labyrinth of my mind, and yes, I will have profound insights and fundamental shifts when I bring them into… (TylerAlterman) — 44 likes
  6. "You gotta push yourself, do better, become something" = i need a daddy "There's nothing to fix, you are already perfection, simply wake up to loving yourself" = i need a mommy (the_wilderless) — 43 likes
  7. to me the most interesting part of the massage / knot discourse so far is you can clearly tell there's a type of guy (gender-neutral) who is made wildly uncomfortable by the idea that massage might… (QiaochuYuan) — 36 likes
  8. at the first bio-emotive retreat i was paired up to facilitate bio-emotive for this woman. we started with "there's this friend who owes me money and i haven't been on her case about it" got to "why… (QiaochuYuan) — 35 likes
  9. not explaining this rn but i'm becoming increasingly convinced that trauma isn't about what happened but about the context around what happened it's not even that something happened but rather that… (ElodesNL) — 35 likes
  10. If you have a habit of being hard on yourself or are chronically unhappy, it's good to regularly strive to cultivate self-compassion, gratitude, and mindfulness. If you've tried to cultivate these… (gnostrils) — 34 likes
  11. The jump between the second panel and the third holds the entire secret. The correct question is asked (why am I not?), and then artfully avoided by an associative switch to self judgement. There is… (eshear) — 33 likes
  12. if you're going to advocate for unguarded open-hearted intimate contact with the present moment please let me know you also understand the survival value of living with guards up, dissociated,… (RichDecibels) — 33 likes
  13. this is another thing i used to believe strongly and don’t anymore. again this is a helpful corrective starting from a (sadly very common) position of being overwhelmed by “toxic shame”. but there… (QiaochuYuan) — 33 likes
  14. this was maybe the first time i'd ever seen someone *finish* crying. there's a reason i kept talking about this. she *completely finished* crying and afterwards her energy was completely… (QiaochuYuan) — 32 likes
  15. # Spell to Banish Shame At the age of eleven I survived sexual assault it nearly broke me but here I stand ready to count my blessings owning where I come from makes the life I now enjoy all the… (zencephalon) — 32 likes
  16. just one more method bro i promise just one more and i'll be good seriously bro I know you already told me about focusing, IFS, core transformation, golden algorithm, bio emotive, coherence therapy,… (nopranablem) — 29 likes
  17. Deprogram yourself from the idea that the more intense an experience is, the more healing it must be (the_wilderless) — 29 likes
  18. My mom and my dad both live on in me, And they were a really bad match for each other, Which now means that I have to somehow fix their marriage, inside myself, or have their dynamic repeated in me… (the_wilderless) — 29 likes
  19. most brainy & socially awkward ppl grew up in some environment where they were punished for being spontaneous. so instead we started running all our behavior through the intellect to restrain… (TylerAlterman) — 29 likes
  20. there's this pop therapy trope where people discover "I was already Enough!" as if simply existing makes you worthy of love. do people actually believe this? I find it so hollow and unconvincing (RichDecibels) — 29 likes
  21. 🧵 Healing PTSD: A Thread 🧵 CW: Trauma, abuse, suicidal ideation If you have followed me for a bit, you've probably seen me talk about exposure therapy, the 5Fs, and a little about the process of… (vividvoid) — 28 likes
  22. thread of therapy and therapy-like thingies that have helped me or people i know: (QiaochuYuan) — 28 likes
  23. After I healed the cognitive damage from PTSD last year, I still had a lot of bitterness and obsessive anger, every day, for months on end. I was recently able to heal that emotional damage with an… (vividvoid) — 28 likes
  24. this was one of the most beautiful and sacred and humbling moments of my life and it was significant to me that it had happened with no assistance from psychedelics, but instead from creating… (QiaochuYuan) — 28 likes
  25. Lowkey it feels irresponsible to give people insight into their psychology before giving them the ability to identify with something greater than that. Like trapping them with a monster in a room… (nosilverv) — 28 likes
  26. Feeling mischievous so here's another thread. One like = one question you really wish I hadn't asked you because of what your answer reveals about your shadow. (GeniesLoki) — 27 likes
  27. Thanks for reading. I love you. Please love yourself enough to be courageous, for yours and others' sake. Do the work. Confront your shadow. Don't let fear rule the one life you get. Become whole.… (vividvoid) — 27 likes
  28. my parents spent my entire childhood lying to me about how happy they were as a couple and how happy we were as a family, before divorcing. in retrospect i considered it my duty to be visibly… (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  29. oh no, I just realised that I have an unconscious strongly-held belief that I can have kids or pursue my intellectual interests, but not both (m_ashcroft) — 27 likes
  30. a recipe for changing yourself: (dont use this for brainwashing/cults ok) many of the traits you perceive to be "your personality" or "your limitations" are not "inside of you" they are your… (RichDecibels) — 27 likes
  31. I used to think that when Buddha said sometimes you have to clench your teeth & crush mind with mind, this was a rare instance in which he advocated for something unskillful. But I've seen so… (vividvoid) — 27 likes
  32. and it is significant that the lesson i took away from this experience was that, finally, i had a reliable technique for making myself cry when i was *alone*, so that i could grieve without needing… (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  33. this tweet for me is personally worth like a million dollars. It might be worth nothing to you but it healed me deeply in ways I didn’t realize I needed healing. it permanently removed something… (visakanv) — 27 likes
  34. You won't hear this in therapy culture, but something men have known for millennia is that an accusation of cowardice, in the right context, can be a truly empowering act of kindness. It immediately… (vividvoid) — 27 likes
  35. I was only 19 years old when I discovered that -narratives you have in your head affect the way you feel And I deduced - you can make up new ones I made up a few stories about myself that had the… (frideswyth) — 27 likes
  36. when i started on twitter i was just starting to recover from being in a cult in a bigger cult, the rationality community i'd devoted 7 years of my life to no longer felt like home, the love of my… (QiaochuYuan) — 27 likes
  37. excited to announce a new breakthrough therapeutic modality called Come To My House. opening April 19 https://t.co/7lWo2HoAMn (RichDecibels) — 27 likes
  38. i don’t remember if i told you guys this but the medium dose of acid thread led directly to one of my mutuals paying off their student loans, getting their first job, and escaping their abusive… (QiaochuYuan) — 26 likes
  39. suppose a person is anxious there often exists an utterance or a series of utterances, that if you say to this person in the right way, will actually result in them being less anxious however, it is… (visakanv) — 26 likes
  40. shifting from “when did my parents emotionally abuse me? never” to “when did my parents have strong stress reactions to what i did? oh all the time” and now i understand where a lot of this trauma… (_brentbaum) — 26 likes
  41. people keep thinking insecure attachment is something about romantic relationships, but it’s not the truth is attachment styles are a fundamental truth about how we relate to the world, self, being… (AskYatharth) — 26 likes
  42. the problem is that i built a personality that is only functional when i feel like i’m winning then experienced a string of uninterrupted wins until i was 22, then i lost hard and have been losing… (QiaochuYuan) — 26 likes
  43. as I start to meaningfully heal from whatever has been ailing me for the past 5+ years, getting glimpses of what my mind and body can do when they're healthy and working well, I feel a profound… (m_ashcroft) — 26 likes
  44. It's unlikely that it's genetics. It also doesn't matter what caused it. That's narcissistic masturbation archeology. What matters is that there is a solution: you must once again become an embodied… (nosilverv) — 25 likes
  45. a thing that i sometimes do that actually sometimes works if i seem to be confused, overwhelmed and generally in a mess i half-jokingly pretend "this Visa unit is defective. please replace", and… (visakanv) — 25 likes
  46. you can’t moralize away a load-bearing coping mechanism (visakanv) — 25 likes
  47. If your life feels like a simulation, like a loop, I would encourage you to consider it might be: a loop, a simulation, that you yourself have created, to avoid doing something that would cause you… (nosilverv) — 25 likes
  48. i am always pouring some love down the drain because i used to be a sewer rat who needed it (visakanv) — 25 likes
  49. wrote about an anecdote that I often bring up in conversations with people who are struggling with trying to change their behaviors: https://t.co/Uk7c78VspW https://t.co/EsMIQnibW6 (visakanv) — 25 likes
  50. I'm pretty convinced at this point that nutrition and psychotherapy are in a class of disciplines that only work when they are totally, uniquely customized for each individual. Neither art nor a… (vividvoid) — 25 likes

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